Why my Facebook profile pic will never be my child


I'm at a stage in my life when most of my friends have 'settled down', partnered up, and (some) have started having kids. I know because I hear about it on Facebook every day. Beside the cute pics, kid quotes, and hilarious recounting of mishaps I'll often notice the big wonder-filled eyes of a child.

Weird. I didn't know I was friends with any toddlers.

Many of my friends- at one point or another- have replaced their own profile image with an image of their baby/toddler/child.

I know my friends LOVE their children. I know that they're very, very proud to be parents. And I know that the pressure is on, now more than ever, to prove ourselves fit, loving parents.

BUT...

Here's why my Facebook profile pic will never be an image of my child.

I love my children, but they are not me. I have my own identity. I don't draw that line strictly for my ego or even my sanity. I do it for them too. My role as a mother does not define all, or even most of who I am and it's important for my kids to learn that for the future them that they will be. I am, and they are valid individuals outside of their roles.

My children are not my world, and I don't want them to have the pressure of being my world either. I have my own life, and realize they probably will never know about most if it. And that's OK.

And it may sound ridiculous but I don't really want my friends and family to feel like they're talking to some weird me-child hybrid on Facebook. They can still talk to me. Even though I've had kids!

Do you think it's weird or totally cute to make children your facebook profile pic?