Sleeping with Someone Who Snores & Insomnia | Trying to Get A (Natural) Night's Sleep

I did a YouTube video a while ago about sleeping with someone who snores. Basically my husband snores pretty loudly and I was getting to the end of my rope not being able to sleep. On top of that I also suffer from pretty severe bouts insomnia so the two together are just not a winning combo and if you've gone days without sleep you know exactly how desperate you can get to find some rest.


Now, sometimes I post videos not having the answers but looking for them or because I know other people out there are probably going through the same thing and it’s nice to know you’re not the only one. So I posted this video really looking for answers, advice and tips on how to sleep with someone who snores (and still actually get sleep). I’ve also posted to Facebook and Twitter looking for answers to both snoring and insomnia and wanted to share some of the answers and solutions that people have given me and how they've worked.

Counting Sheep Coffee:

Counting Sheep Coffee was the first thing I tried. It came recommended (and was featured on Dragon's Den), so my husband went out in search of where we could buy it locally. Counting Sheep is essentially a decaf coffee (I do love my coffee) with Valerian that you drink prior to bedtime (Note: I’ve also tried Valerian on its own separately). It's packaged for a Keurig-type coffee maker in single serve capsules and the recommended serving is one capsule before bed. When I tried it over a number of days I found it did literally nothing, so I upped the serving.
Nada.

Magnesium and Melatonin:

A magnesium/melatonin combo from Natural Calm was also recommended. The magnesium comes in a powder that you dissolve into warm water, taken in concert with the melatonin which comes in a liquid dropper that you add to a glass of water. Magnesium and melatonin had both come so highly recommended that I tried this for the better part of a month.
No cigar.

Rescue Remedy:

Rescue Remedy is trusted by friends to help with a number of things including anxiety and depression, but they also have a sleep aid called Rescue Sleep. You can find liquid and spray forms of this but I took the liquid dissolve capsules. 1-2 capsules are recommended shortly before bedtime, but I found I had to increase to 3 capsules. Taking 3 capsules prior to bed I did find that I could fall asleep faster than before (not fast, but faster) and when I would wake up it didn't take quite as long to fall back asleep. I was still left with the problem of not being able to fall asleep very quickly and waking numerous, numerous times every night, BUT I did notice a slight and positive impact.

I’ve also tried exercise, meditation, yoga, and breathing exercises.

Alcohol:

But by far the MOST popular thing people have recommended to me time and time again is alcohol. And guys, I’ve tried that- believe me- but that one’s problematic for me because 1) you don’t actually get very good restful sleep when you drink, and 2) I really don’t want to be dependent on alcohol to sleep. For a lot of reasons. If you have a mind that just doesn’t want to shut down (which is largely where my insomnia stems from) it’s easier or it can feel better to just have a few drinks/shots/whatever and be able to think less and fall into sleep. But it doesn’t feel like a good solution to me.
SO, that kind of brings to me to where I’m at now.


On the snoring side we got to a point where I was more or less threatening divorce if my husband didn’t go and have a sleep study done to assess his sleep apnea. He had tried a bunch of different things that didn’t work so eventually he went and did a sleep study. His sleep apnea turned out to be pretty severe so now he sleeps with a CPAP machine at night and doesn’t snore. The machine does make a bit of noise but it is waaaaay better than the snoring.


On my end for insomnia- I’ve actually ditched all the sleep aids (including alcohol) for now and decided to try and figure it out without taking anything. Here's what's working:

  • One of the significant things for me was that I wouldn’t sleep well at night so I would have to get my sleep in the morning or I would feel like I would have to sleep in just to get any sleep at all. So I was getting up later in the morning. I’ve pushed that back now so I’m getting up earlier whether or not I’m tired or got any sleep. What I’ve found so far is it makes me more tired at night which means it is a bit easier to fall asleep and stay asleep.
  • I also used to be sort of a night owl, so I didn’t really want to go to bed at night, even if I was tired. Now, if I feel tired I actually stop what I’m doing and try to go to bed instead.
  • This one’s going to sound weird, but I also usually sleep with a below below my head but then one on top of my head too. So, when I’m lying on my side, I have a pillow below my head and then I lay a pillow on top of my head. This actually does a few things for me: it blocks out any light that might be coming in, it mutes any little sounds, and it also enhances the sound of my breathing, so it makes me focus more on my breathing and slowing it down- breathing more deeply which helps a lot to fall asleep.

If I've learned anything from both sleeping with someone who snores AND dealing with insomnia it's that living in a constant state of exhaustion has a massive impact on your life and we all have different things that work (and don't) to get a good night's rest. If this is something you're dealing with or you have any solution please head on over to those YouTube vids and leave a comment! I'd love to hear from you and you could help someone else get a better night's rest!